THE DATING CHRONICLES OF A SAN DIEGO SINGLE.
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The following stories are TRUE; these are not an invitation to ask me out on a date\u2026. lol!<\/p>\n I am in no way saying that I am the perfect date, I’m just explaining my side and offering some helpful tips for dating in general to keep it fun. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n The names have been changed to protect the innocent. And for clarification\u2026dating is for research..I will not give into “selling out” and you will not see any symptoms of “bitchassness”…on my part anyway.<\/p>\n -Your feedback and comments are welcome…all in the name of research! lol<\/span><\/p>\n Chapter 10<\/span><\/p>\n \u201c The way you look tonight\u201d\u2026.doesn\u2019t matter because you\u2019re like my homie\u2026.<\/p>\n Oh silly boys, the bane of my existence\u2026<\/p>\n When are we going to get it right\u2026.if you want to get anywhere with a girl, treat her like a lady!<\/p>\n I met what seemed to be a nice guy and when he asks me to a movie for a first date, I agree because he seemed kind of shy. I didn\u2019t want to be in any awkward situation and have to create constant conversation, so off to a movie we go. <\/p>\n If you have listened to anything I have had to say, you should know this but I will say this again\u2026.the way you treat, or don\u2019t treat a lady on the first date will determine future dates or lack their of. <\/p>\n Before our movie we went to Starbucks for coffee, and when we stood in line, he kind of stood back, odd but I wanted coffee so I just bought it for the both of us. I\u2019m obviously observant but I wasn\u2019t going to rip his head off for not buying the coffee. I did however take note.<\/p>\n We go watch a movie which isn\u2019t a good first date. Why? Because you can\u2019t talk to each other. You are literally watching a movie with a stranger and you don\u2019t leave there knowing them any better. <\/p>\n After the movie, he asked me to go to dinner. Because of the choice to go to a movie for a date, I figure this might be a good way to make up for that. We get there, and we actually begin a conversation (finally) and aside from the majority of his attention on the Lakers game, it wasn\u2019t half bad even though I noticed he was a bit quiet and I did the majority of the talking. Looking back that\u2019s probably why I started to have a good time, because I was making myself laugh. The bill comes and I just pull my money out because I get at this point that\u2019s just what I should do as I did pay for the coffee and I paid for my ticket to the movie. He then says \u201cumm, I can buy this time\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cUmm, this time?\u201d Lucky me. I got the impression, that though he paid, he totally hesitated, and if I was going to go out with him again, I had better bring my wallet.<\/p>\n He called me a few days later and wanted to go out again. I figure, ok, he was a nice guy, although extremely quiet, maybe he just needed to relax a bit more, and this time he would do that, and I guessed he was asking me out again so he would like to, bottom line, treat a lady to dinner. I agreed to go. We were sitting at dinner and he is quiet\u2026I\u2019m the one asking all of the questions and his responses to those questions\u2026.short. I had time to daydream and thought \u201cWhere is the friendly witty banter?\u201d I even made it more awkward just to make myself laugh by adding phrases like, \u201csoooooo,\u201d and \u201canywhoooo\u201d . I mean really, who stole your joy? Why so glum chum?<\/p>\n After dinner, the bill comes\u2026.he wants to split the bill. Of course! Ok, fine we split dinner. He then says: \u201chow about we go grab some ice cream?.\u201d He has to buy me ice cream now right? WRONG! He picked his ice cream out and wouldn\u2019t you guess, I pay for it\u2026.wow, dude, thanks for INVITING ME to dinner\u2026.if I would have known you were going to invite me out and not pay, and then torture me with utter silence I would have gone out alone instead and had a fabulous time. <\/p>\n Dessert was over about 8ish and he asked if I had time to go grab a drink. I did so I agreed, I was still trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and I know many of you might be wondering why I would continue to put myself through this but I have to spread the word about how to act and not act on a date so there are certain things I must endure\u2026.ALL IN THE NAME OF RESEARCH! He takes me to Anthology which he had been to already and so had I, which meant he knew it was a great date place (bonus points). I knew it cost to get in because they have concerts but he took me there anyway. When the guy at the door says \u201cHey guys it\u2019s $18 a person tonight\u201d \u2026mind you, it was a live Salsa band which already sounded great\u2026he tells the guy \u201c$18?!! Oh nevermind\u201d (bonus points subtracted) Did that just happen? If I was a guy, my pride alone would have paid the cover but, he chose otherwise and said \u201cnevermind\u201d\u2026 Well what can I say, my experiences at Anthology haven\u2019t been that great I guess, the first time I go there, my date calls me by another name, and the second time, I get in the door and my date decides I\u2019m not worth the cover charge. We walk out, and then he suggests the W Hotel. We go to the bar, and frankly, I had had it with this guy. I didn\u2019t offer to split the drinks, or offer to pay, I ordered my drink and walked away. <\/p>\n He complained about how expensive they were, just about the whole time I was drinking my drink\u2026he even mentioned possibly bringing a flask next time. I was thinking \u201cnext time, you are dead wrong Mr.\u201d After that drink I was pretty much ready to go. Though he must have liked the drink because now he\u2019s starting to converse with me\u2026.ok, I\u2019m with \u201cTHAT GUY\u201d, the guy that needs a drink to have a good time\u2026wonderful, like I need the illusion of a good conversationalist. I just decided to indulge him a bit. <\/p>\n While he began creating conversation, albeit boring, but conversation nonetheless, I had a chance to dissect this date\u2026.on both dates, he hadn\u2019t really treated me like we were on a date, and I was disappointed but then I thought wait!, if I had gone out with my girlfriends the way these two \u201cdates\u201d have gone, they would have gone exactly the same, we would split everything or I would get dinner and they would get next time etc\u2026.I then realized I didn\u2019t have to be so disappointed! I was thinking cool, this guy just wants to be friends and that works for me. I was on my own date at that point anyway. Well the drink starts to kick in\u2026.for him\u2026he starts to get closer to me, puts his arm around me starts rubbing my shoulders and then I start thinking, \u201cWell I don\u2019t remember the last time Stacey did this???\u201d Wait, this guy does just want to be friends right, friends don\u2019t rub on me! He\u2019s feeling good and even at one point during his moment of liquid courage he says: \u201cI just can\u2019t figure out why at 36, well almost 37 I\u2019m still single?\u201d I almost spit my drink out on that one. Really? Now I\u2019m annoyed because he really thinks he\u2019s on a date\u2026and he clearly wasn\u2019t\u2026..not the way he was treating me anyway. <\/p>\n So when he finished that line of the song I sang back to him with a verse of my own..softly in his ear as well: He didn\u2019t like that. I did though. I went home quickly after that and haven\u2019t gone out with him since. <\/p>\n After telling my girlfriend about this guy, she turns to me and says \u201cLori, these are tough economic times, maybe he\u2019s on a budget?\u201d Then he SHOULDN\u2019T BE DATING!<\/p>\n *A few tips and reminders: 2.Girls like guys with sense of humor, laugh it up! Laugh at life, laugh at yourself. Don\u2019t take yourself so seriously and look excited about what you have in your life and who you have in your life\u2026and of course be excited that you are with her! When you have a serious face all the time, the girl is going to think you aren\u2019t interested in her. I will leave you all with this, picture me singing: Xoxo THE DATING CHRONICLES OF A SAN DIEGO SINGLE.Disclaimer: The following stories are TRUE; these are not an invitation to ask me out on a date\u2026. lol! I am in no way saying that I am the perfect date, I’m just…<\/p>\n
I don’t claim to be a dating guru but have just been out there actively dating and I believe many of my experiences are no different than yours, I just decided to write about them…yes, I think I might make this a habit\u2026<\/p>\n
I mean, I understand if it was too expensive, then don\u2019t take me there in the first place, he was aware they charged, he had been there before..several times.<\/p>\n
I decided I wanted another drink and I knew not to tell him that, I just got up and bought one for me and for him\u2026although I did buy him the drink with cheap vodka and I bought myself the good stuff LOL\u2026.I wanted to have a good rest of my date\u2026and it was up to me to do that, he sure wasn\u2019t going to. <\/p>\n
Oh and the good times didn\u2019t stop there\u2026he then begins to sing to me, softly, in my ear\u2026..
\u201cSOME DAY WHEN YOU\u2019RE AWFULLY LOW, I WILL FEEL A GLOW, JUST THINKING OF YOU, AND THE WAY YOU LOOK TONIGHT\u201d <\/p>\n
\u201cI guess it doesn\u2019t matter how I look tonight, because you\u2019re treating me like I\u2019m one of your guy frieeeeends, and getting laid is not how this date will eeennnnndddd\u201d<\/p>\n
1.Guys: It is bad etiquette to take a lady on a date and tell her to pay for it or split the bill\u2026don\u2019t do it. DON\u2019T DO IT. <\/p>\n
So you\u2019re eyes better light up and your grill better be flashin or she\u2019s going to move on. <\/p>\n
\u201cHope these tips serve you welllllllllllll or you will end up in dating hellllll\u201d<\/p>\n
-Lo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"