THE DATING CHRONICLES OF A SAN DIEGO SINGLE.
Disclaimer:
The following stories are TRUE; these are not an invitation to ask me out on a date…. lol!
I am in no way saying that I am the perfect date, I’m just explaining my side and offering some helpful tips for dating in general to keep it fun. 😉
The names have been changed to protect the innocent.
I don’t claim to be a dating guru but have just been out there actively dating and I believe many of my experiences are no different than yours, I just decided to write about them…yes, I think I might make this a habit…
And for clarification…dating is for research..I will not give into “selling out” and you will not see any symptoms of “bitchassness”…on my part anyway.
-Your feedback and comments are welcome…all in the name of research! lol
Chapter 7
“Don Juan DeMarco”
CONFIDENCE….guys…it will get you everywhere…
Cinco de Mayo..out with a friend to grab some dinner. The restaurant was packed….we moved to the bar hoping someone was leaving soon so we could grab a seat.
*I have been told by many of my friends that I can be oblivious when a guy is checking me out. I don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing…..I guess because I’m pretty content with my life, it is so rare that I go out with the intention of meeting guys other than for business….
We are looking around, and spot a group moving over to another table except one guy stays behind, we thought he might be leaving as well so we simply ask if the table was taken.
By this time, he had noticed me….but I didn’t notice that….yet! lol
He says, “Well if you don’t mind me sitting with you ladies, you can sit here.”
So we say Thank You, and out of courtesy introduce ourselves. Mind you at this point, I still hadn’t noticed him. I was there with my girlfriend and we weren’t trying to be rude other than I just didn’t notice him and we were starving lol!
So shortly after we sit down and order our food, he turns to me and begins conversation, and in order for him not to be rude to my friend, begins conversation with her as well. …
This guy had us both laughing in no time.
NOW I noticed him.
He was making conversation with me, complimented me, but he NEVER made my friend feel left out….me likey…
The conversation began flowing…..
It was like a nice little first date. No ex-file talk, no baggage, just nice, innocent, interesting, humorous conversation.
Oh this guy was a charmer but not in a sleazy way….I could tell he knew what he was doing, but you can’t fake humor…he was making me laugh and being silly, you could tell he didn’t take himself too seriously and his humor was natural…..it was nice.
He was talking to me like he knew me and it was weird but I felt like he did. He was persistent. After about an hour and a half of non stop conversation, he says
” So when are we seeing eachother again?” I was a bit taking back and my guard went up…
“See eachother again, for what? Who’s going to be there? Where are we going?” (Jeez dream kill much Lori!?) lol
He sensed it, and very calmly said, “Look, I am really enjoying your company and from what I get you are enjoying mine. I would like to see you again, and if you are uncomfortable with that, you can bring your friend too, we can do a big group thing and go dancing.” I looked at his friend and they seemed harmless lol.
I tried to keep my cool of course 😉 but I couldn’t help that I was intrigued with this guy. He was persistent, cool, calm and collected! He NEVER even asked if I had a boyfriend. Not once! It was like he was so confident that I wouldn’t turn him down no matter what my situation was. Even my friend noticed he never even asked…kind of like he knew what he wanted and was going to take it and now, it was like I was back in high school, I didn’t know how to behave!
So when I say, “yeah that sounds good”, he says, ” let’s schedule it now, because just saying that it sounds good means that you may only think about it, scheduling it now makes it more of a sure thing. Let’s schedule it now” N.O.W –No Opportunity Wasted!!
I gave him my number….
You think his charm ends there but oh no!…
I love to dance, and in this restaurant in the bar area, there was a band playing, Spanish music. He doesn’t ask me, he tells me, “come on, let’s dance” I couldn’t say no.
(He likes to dance 3 points!) hahaaa
He was fun and had me cracking up the whole time. I could tell he could dance but again he didn’t take himself too seriously and was being silly. Even his group of friends at the next table were cheering us on..
What unexpected fun that was.
My friend and I were getting ready to leave and the bill came.
Well it was like I was buzzed but I had nothing to drink! I couldn’t write correctly, I didn’t even sign my name right! I was thinking “What is this guy doing to me!?” Even my friend noticed….She later brought it to my attention…. “It was like you were buzzed…OFF OF HIM!”
We left right after we got the bill. He was a gentleman, he gave me a hug, said goodbye to the both of us and I had to bite my lower lip to stop from smiling from ear to ear. I needed to try and regain some sort of control lol!
We got in the car and I turned to my friend and said “Wow, you realize we have just met the real life Don Juan DeMarco?”
To be honest, I don’t remember what he looks like, and that is simply because I am never impressed much by looks, but I do know that I was impressed with his charm and confidence.
**Don’t confuse confidence with cockiness! Guys do not walk up to a girl and try to overcompensate by cracking smart ass jokes that you have no idea what to do with!? Charm is a skill, it takes practice. It’s ok if you’re an amateur but know your limits! If you don’t have game- don’t throw out the brilliant lines all at once. Keep your cool. I think guys make it harder than it has to be. Believe me…Women can tell when you are trying to hard….it can’t be said enough, BE YOURSELF! There is humor in everyday life..USE IT to make her laugh but be natural about it…come on, No one really likes the Jim Carrey types do they?
*And just because you get the girls number doesn’t mean now you can act like a retard. Again, charm and confidence is something that comes from the inside out. It needs to be carried out through getting to know eachother..it’s not just get the date and be done with it. A true charmer will be charming throughout a growing friendship…(which will hold true for this guy too huh if he’s really as charming as he seems!?) lol
**Ladies, do the same….Men like to laugh too you know!? We always say that we want a guy that can make us laugh but we should make them laugh as well! Work on it girls!
Me, I don’t have that problem…I make myself laugh all of the time! ;p
As a refresher, this is for informational purposes only!
Just because this guy was a charmer, you will NOT SEE BITCHASSNESS or SELLING OUT from me!
I may have just entered into a real life “Don Juan DeMarco” situation but hey, he got my number and to be honest, if he hadn’t approached me, I probably wouldn’t have noticed him other wise even though he was sitting right next to me….
And hey…at the very least this can only give me more stories to write about right!?;-)