My, What Big Balls You Have

They were huge….

I mean, who would stop his car in the middle of the street because he wanted to ask me for my number? A guy with huge balls…figuratively of course.

On a Thursday afternoon, my best friend and I were walking to catch dinner and drinks with friends. I, oblivious, didn’t notice a guy staring at me as he drove past us.  My friend did though…and then he stopped his car in the street, got out, and approached me…

I was taken aback. I had to stop for a second to really think about what was happening, especially when people driving by started to rubber neck like silly people do when there is an accident. This was no accident…although his car was in the street.

He then very apologetically said : “I’m sorry to be so abrupt, I never do this but I just had to ask you if I could speak with you, I just would like the opportunity to get to know you if that’s ok?” He gave me his card but it seemed like he wasn’t going to leave that to chance and then asked for mine: “May I have your number?  I’d like to give you a call.”

I have to say, I was impressed. That was pretty bold of him to do that…Have to say I was flattered as well. That had never happened to me before.  It seems both sexes can be pretty lazy when it comes to dating these days and often times, life in general, so when this happened, I was a little slow in response to anything he said because I was a little confused.  Not that I don’t think I’m attractive, it had just never happened to me, or anyone I know.

He really left me no room not to give him my number.   As a security guard came up to him and said “Can you move this to the side please?!”….I gave him my number.  He wasn’t creepy, he was well spoken, and well put together…and I kind of wanted to get him back in his car and off the street.

He didn’t catch my eye as far as looks go, but rarely does a guy catch my eye. I always say good looking people are a dime a dozen, so even if he was or wasn’t my version of what attractive is…doesn’t mean I would have noticed him on looks alone.

He called a short while later to introduce himself again, wished me a good evening, and said he’d call tomorrow.

THIS is what I’m talking about! That’s how it’s done!!  I appreciated that he approached me and wasn’t creepy about it.

I will forever give praise and thanks to the men out there who are bold and don’t leave things to chance.

Yes, but now what? I JUST announced to the world (or just you) that I didn’t want to date. ..but honestly, I have to go out with him..if anything just to thank him for giving me such a compliment. I spend most of my time figuring out how to woo myself, and make myself feel beautiful so when someone else does it, I almost don’t know how to process that…almost.  I am not going out with him because all of a sudden “He’s the one.” I just want to go out with him to say, “Thank you”..maybe bake him a cake 😉

LAZINESS is such a turn off for me.  A man, who speaks up, and maybe not in these exact words but says “I want you” and shows it…is something VERY difficult to ignore.  Much more refreshing than having to go back and forth with stupid games because people have too much ego.

So boys…TAKE NOTE!! Don’t let what you want get away from you…as a reminder though: DON’T BE CREEPY!

I’ve said this time and time again. When you want something, you go for it. Don’t ask a girl to “Hang out” because you are too afraid of rejection. “Hang out” can be a gray area for some girls but not for me, let me tell you, if a guy ever says “Let’s hang out”, I will NEVER consider that a date. It’s not my fault you are too chicken shit to state what you want.

If you want to know if a girl likes you, without all the stupid run around, head games, ASK HER OUT. Say it “I would like to take you out on a date.” Guys use “hang out” as a rejection buffer so if you don’t like them they can just say “It’s cool, we just hung out, it wasn’t a date or anything.” So lame.

If you want to be respected like a man, act like one. Go after what you want and make it known to her, or the only place you’ll be hanging out is the Friends Zone.


Happy Dating!


11 comments for “My, What Big Balls You Have

  1. Michael Conedy
    May 28, 2011 at 11:25 pm

    So, what you’re saying is that I should hop out of moving transportation the next time I approach a woman? Got it….this sucks b/c I catch the L train on the way to work. I may have to wear blinders to avoid seeing the girl of my dreams, b/c it’s a well known fact that train tracks across ones forehead are a turn off for most women.

    • May 29, 2011 at 8:57 am

      No, you shouldn’t Mike. Being that it’s you, it would definitely be creepy lol 🙂

  2. May 29, 2011 at 9:01 am

    Last febuary I came across a similar situation. One of those don’t pass up situations, and I totally approached a girl in a similar fashion and lucky for me she accepted and we are still talking to this day. There’s more to the story that I won’t bother you with but it’s fun to think with a little effort and a smile goes a long way oh and also talking to the girl helped. 🙂

    • May 29, 2011 at 9:04 am

      Exactly what I’m saying! Talking to the girl, perfect. So many guys are just afraid of talking. Well if you’d just speak up, you’d see that maybe, just maybe, you wouldn’t be rejected. Good for you:)

  3. Tony
    May 31, 2011 at 10:50 pm

    Great move…(not in a scam way) I am a firm believer that if I got a girls number I’ll call her the next day…no reason to sit around and wait 3 days to play “the game”…that’s how I got my girlfriend…we meet 1 night after her work and I called her the next day to ask her out for lunch…and here I am super happy 1 1/2yrs later…

  4. JennJenn75
    July 12, 2011 at 12:20 am

    I love that you have Men readers too! 🙂

  5. Aide45
    July 17, 2011 at 9:08 pm

    I think the whole dont be creepy part is really subjective and based on how attractive the guy is in the first place. People like to say confidence is key or acting “like a man” is important but when it comes to first impressions its looks that really sell it. Lets face it, if it was a fat hairy man approaching you, it would have been creepy. And if it was a tall muscular hunk you wouldve said hell yeah!

    • July 18, 2011 at 6:38 am

      I agree it’s subjective but I think it’s hilarious that you then assume a tall muscular hunk is what I find not creepy. Truth is, he was NOT my idea of attractive but thats not the point. When he asked for my number, it all happened so fast that I didn’t even remember what he looked like. Yes he was well put together and later I found that was attractive to me, that was handsome in my eyes, but looks never really get my attention. There are tons of great looking ppl everywhere, it takes a lot in a person to get my attention.

      • Aide45
        July 18, 2011 at 10:46 am

        Hmm. I still say that the chances of a hunky man approaching you and coming off as creepy are slim to none. Maybe I’m just over generalizing you and maybe I just hang around the wrong girls that talk about looks too much, but it’s hard for me not to hold some pessimism against the “looks aren’t everything” argument, probably because of my film career. I mean, we bombard society with messages of what masculinity should look and sound like, and I think it’s rare to find someone who can really overlook appearances (if they are there), and be able to discern whether or not a man has a handsome soul.

        • July 18, 2011 at 4:26 pm

          I have had that happen. A guy approached me after I left the gym. He was handsome, and built…but he came off as creepy. It is your approach. You are over generalizing. If you knew me, or asked any one of my friends, you’d see I don’t have a “type” and I do look beyond looks..I do believe you must be attracted to each other but I have developed feelings for a guy after getting to know him when I wouldn’t have noticed him…that’s the best thing, getting to know a friend and then developing feelings. Online dating is different, there looks have to be what you first go off of but in real life, many things can attract me, and let me tell you, most of the time, it isn’t their muscles.

  6. September 9, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    Funny, I just wrote about this, from the other perspective. Thanks for the insight.

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